Pay attention to what life is teaching you and where it’s taking you.
If you were to tell me that I would survive some of the toughest emotional trials over the last 10 years – I’d tell you – nah, I’m not. I’m not that strong.
Not someone breaking my heart. Not feeling like you might lose a parent. Not defeat.
Without a doubt I would tell my younger self, “Girllllll, if you don’t get yourself up off of that floor and assume total control of your life – which absolutely includes your happiness.”
No one can take that away from you – and you should never put anything worth losing in the hands of someone else – particularly not your worth, happiness, finances and growth. That’s personal.
As 2016 ended, I stumbled across a term that I am now fully implementing into my life. Like, aggressively applying to my life daily . Right now.
I’m a total believer in developing your (self-)
I just now, at 32, started to tell myself that I’m smart, I’m pretty, I’m cool. I validate myself. I affirm myself. I don’t seek outside of myself what I need. I say all this rather loosely, but it’s true. We all love compliments, to receive positive “feedback” from others, etc. – but it’s something that I find that I have to be mindful of. Or rather, careful of. I don’t need a guy or my father, my mother, or any one to tell me anything that I can tell myself. Or put differently, I can’t expect someone else to tell me what I’m worth, if I don’t set that standard first. I am discovering that unapologetically writing the terms and conditions to my life makes things a hell of a lot easier – and honestly, I’m much more fulfilled and peaceful, which is my definition of happiness. I pay attention to how situations, and people – make me feel and I take note.
So now, I do self affirmations daily. I’m working my way up to 50 daily self affirmations – and I have to say it has ridiculously changed my life. Try it. Let me know if you notice a difference.
Bottomline: Rely on yourself for what you need. Be there for yourself. All the time. Every day. Don’t let yourself down. Be kind to yourself. Find your own balance. This gift of life is yours to design.
*steps off soapbox*
I just wanted to write a quick post to share with you guys. It was on my heart today. As my 33rd birthday nears, I’m getting really reflective. I keep thinking about what I would tell my younger self, and not only would it be to relax but it would also be to just ride the wave and go with the flow. Don’t resist it.
Please don’t. It’s taking you exactly where you need to be and go. Trust me. Even the dumb, stupid, crazy – OHHH my GOD decisions and choices you make that you “regret,” or “mistakes” you just want to forget. The people that came into your life and just tried to turn your life upside down – and run you down – nope. Even the not so nice things you did to others. The curveballs. The okie-dokes. The guilt, shame or even remorse. It happened. All you have to do is take the lessons and what it taught you about yourself. The good and bad. And ugly. That’s what growth is. The space between where you are now compared to where you were before. As long as you’re still here, just go with it. Life also has an auto-correct – just let it do what it’s meant to do and get out the way. But don’t keep making the same mistakes – the lessons get much much harder. Blah.